Some of you know that I’ve recently moved in to a new home. One of the things the sellers established there is a beautiful garden. It’s small, but is dense with flowering vines, flowers, an archway, herbs, potted flowering plants, and two frangipani trees, which are hopefully set to flower in summer.
I’m not usually known for my ability to look after plants - I’ve been more of a killer than a green thumb in the past - but the garden is beautiful and I’m doing my best to keep it alive. I’ve even been out to prune some of…
Have you ever felt stuck? I sure have, and I’m feeling it acutely this week.
I feel stuck in grief; in sadness; sometimes I wonder if it’s a place I’m getting too comfortable in…if it’s even possible to be comfortable. I certainly don’t enjoy it, yet it’s been a huge challenge to pull myself out.
My introvert self would be quite happy to stay home and not go out, engage with others, or be in the world. But that isn’t terribly practical.
Days like last week’s ‘R U OK’ day remind me I’m not. This year’s message was, ‘Are they…
When people have asked me how I am — especially in the last few months — I’ve described some days as ‘emotional groundhog day’.
When I say groundhog day, I don’t mean the holiday; to me it’s like that day Bill Murray’s character experiences over and over in the movie of the same name.
I’ll do my best to explain.
In the 13 or so months since my mum’s passing, I have slowly begun to heal. …
Since my mum passed away last year, I have felt her presence in different and sometimes unexpected ways.
I have dreamt of mum at least three times. Each time, she is happy and smiling (to me, a clear sign she is at peace), but she has never spoken.
In my waking moments, out of nowhere, I will hear mum’s voice in my head, saying something funny, or I’ll remember something funny she used to do. She still makes me laugh even now.
Other things have happened that I cannot otherwise explain…
I was cooking dinner one night, and through the…
Today I had the joy of receiving something I hadn’t in a long, long time — a handwritten letter.
It came from one of my oldest and dearest friends. In it, she reminded me of the weekly letters we had written each other when we were teenagers — we would exchange them every weekend when we saw each other.
The letter moved me to tears — tears of joy, of nostalgia, of longing for the simpler days before communication became electronic… and perhaps a little cold.
I know that I will make the time to write back.
Today’s gift brought…
If you’re a bird lover like I am (or even if you’re not and you’d like a lockdown distraction), there are live streams available of birds' nests around the country and around the world that you can watch to take your mind off any worries you may have.
You can have a bird’s eye view (sorry) of the nests, their occupants (including their chicks), and their activities.
Some live streams run only during the birds' breeding seasons. For example, the 379 Collins Street Falcons stream runs from August each year, when the same breeding pair of Peregrine Falcons return to…
Having rented at least nine apartments over the past 16 years, I’ve had a bit (!) of experience moving house.
Here are my top five tips for your next move (unless you have — quite understandably — sworn you’ll never move again):
1. My top tip, above anything else, is to set up and/or make your bed when you arrive at your new home, so that when you want to collapse with exhaustion, you can do so on clean sheets...rather than falling face forward onto your mattress, weeping because you’re so tired…but still need to make your bed.
Did you know that the opposite of sparkle is 'darkle’?
Darkle (verb): to become clouded or gloomy; to grow dark; to become concealed in the dark.
I came across this new word this week via dictionary.com on Instagram.
I started thinking about the opposites in us:
Dark and light
Sadness and happiness
Fear and courage
War and peace
Which side do we let in; where do we place our energy?
Sometimes it's easy to let ourselves fall into darkness, sadness, fear, or inner turmoil - especially in these uncertain times.
There’s nothing wrong with experiencing negative emotions — every human…
I've lost count of how many times I have thought or said, 'These are strange times' during this pandemic...Never more so than when we are separated from a loved one before or after their passing.
The pandemic has meant that some of us haven't had the opportunity to farewell our loved ones properly after they pass away, or to be with them beforehand to say our goodbyes.
There have been three deaths in my family in less than 13 months. Each one has of course brought grief, with an added element of distance.
We attend funerals in masks, or remotely…
Recently — and for the first time in my life — I was involved in a legal dispute. I can’t and won’t go into the details as it’s now settled, but it got me thinking about a few things.
As I was waiting day after day — then week after week — for a resolution, the actions of those on the other side reminded me how as human beings, we can sometimes do desperate things to achieve our goals: we can intimidate, lie, and obfuscate. We may tarnish others for the sake of our own cause...or ego.
And what if…